CLAUD

Friday, October 14, 2011

How do you do it?

It's easy to hate someone whom everyone thinks is nasty. However how do you dislike someone whom everyone thinks is an angel? It can start to feel insecure and the sourish feeling of guilt insists on making a home in one's conscience.

"Maybe I'm just being petty…"

"Maybe I'm weird…"

"Maybe s/he is not that bad…"

Even when we dislike someone, we want to feel normal about it because we don't want to bear the burden of guilt alone. It's always okay to dislike a common enemy, but when you start to turn on your own allies, people question your judgement and make you an enemy out of your own hate. It's easy to hate someone when that person is alone. It's even easier to hate someone because everyone is doing the same.

Take Rebecca Black for instance, easy to dislike her song because everyone's condemning the crappy lyrics.

But you'll almost be drawn and quartered if you say you dislike Taylor Swift (which I do by the way).

Can we reserve the right to be different and like/dislike on our own prerogative? I am a firm believer that no one is ever free to do whatever they want, without paying a high cost for it. People who want to be free, be 'unique', be 'unbounded' will always find themselves rooted in loneliness, dread, and uncertainty. So how do you do it?

How do you hate someone who loves you, whom everyone loves without feeling alone and a pariah? Do you change your mind and start to see things from "a different perspective" or try to change how you feel? Then do you feel like injustice is upon you when you are persuaded to think good, instead of ill-will against a person?

It's tiring to hold ill-will against an individual. It's even harder to hold ill-will and have everyone judge you for it. Being judged for disliking someone actually tells us more about the person judging, than the person being judged. It's tells us how different they are from you, and more important, it makes you realise who you are because of their reactions. There's no need to feel insecure or apologetic for disliking someone whom everyone likes. This is because you can now thank them, for allowing you to understand who you are as a person, due to their reactions. We can all suspect that we're maybe, a little selfish, and through their reactions, we can now be sure. So when we are sure that we are selfish by disliking someone for our own self-centered reasons, we can reassess our point of view and come to an affirmative conclusion about our preferences and character.

We will only know how tea tastes when it's put in hot water and the hotter the water, the stronger the taste.

Perhaps disliking someone who is different from you and being judged in return for being different, gives us character, it helps us shape our personal flavour - yet like tea, too much hot water kills off the delicate taste (idea temperature for red tea I believe, is 80 degrees celcius?). So take care and judge people in good taste. Every bag of tea is precious, some require hotter water to bring out their best flavours, some like, jasmine tea will practically be scalded at boiling point.

So...how do you do hate someone whom everyone loves?

With guts,
and an open mind.

Note: not referring to anyone in particular. Just a hypothetical thought so not to worry…=)

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