Someone of a very practical mind told me, "if you don't get married now, then don't. The guys that are left-overs often have something wrong with them. Wait till someone gets divorced then marry them. Marry divorcee not bad what? Sometimes it's just different character then the marriage can't work out, but these guys are at least normal. So don't feel sad lah, don't marry don't marry lor! My friend got married at 40 and she's so happy now."

I guess the lesson here is to not give up hope and to not conform for the sake of conformity. After all, while we dream that all marriages are 'happy ever afters' - while most of them are, it's actually a lot of work and commitment. Some may turn out to be nightmares, with domestic and psychological abuse, some may turn out to be worse than their singlehood - their partners not at home half the time because of work etc.

As this is the time when many of my friends are getting attached and some are even engaged, I suppose a little advice goes a long way. Elders have 'been there, done that'. I don't suppose I'll be doubting those words soon, especially when my own father can also always find someone to love again and be happy, or when his friends got married at a ripe old age of 50. Life is unexpected, so who knows?

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