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Sunday, February 14, 2010

Year of the Tiger

Hello! HAHA...this is the year of the tiger, my mum's year. So officially, she's erm, 48 years old this year?

Sometimes the passing years don't seem like a stream. It seems more like an obstacle course which leaves you panting at the end of it. Then you finally feel like lying down on the grass at the end of it, close your eyes and before you know it, you're facing the Almighty on a pedestal in white robes.

At least that's what I like to picture my afterlife to be. Then again, it's not something I look forward to. You mean after life you still wanna live? Geez...I just wanna have a nice long nap =D

in any case, i was at my grandma's for reunion dinner. Before dinner, she approached my dad an I with 2 angbaos. One was to give me for CNY, then i didn't want to take because I said CNY we still meeting mah, why must give now. She just shushed me up and shoved the angbao into my hands. My cousin damn funny, he said in hokkein, "I don't have?" then my grandma damn bad, she said, "you useless one, don't need to give you." WALAO!

then my grandma took 2 very large gold pieces of jewellry from the other angbao and gave to my dad, saying this is for our family (for me precisely). She says that she's getting old and before she passes on, she wants to give us all that she has so that we won't fight after she's dead. She kept insisting that she's very fair and then say that she has distributed it all to her other children already. My dad and I was very tempted to NOT take it, because it meant that she'll be passing on one day, and that thought saddens both of us.

Hahaha...she gave me her pair of gold hoops that my grand-dad gave her when they got married. Then, she gave me a very thick and long necklace and say that I must wear for my wedding. Wah...stress can? Now more excuse to find a husband. HAHAHA!

but what do you do when confronted by such thing? Do you say thank you and give your grandma a hug, or do yo reject and say that when the time comes then you'll take it. How do you accept heirlooms? Don't they come in safety deposit boxes which you will only find out once you grow up?

I guess I have grown up and it's time to 'take over' things.

Of course, please don't rob me (like what my uncle did) after knowing this? You are all good people right?

My point here is not jewellry, it is receiving it. My grandma said something pretty touching and we've heard it so many times. But in this context in giving us her possessions, "I can't bring this to my grave" is being realised.

Material possessions have no meaning, if you have no one you love to give to.

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