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Tuesday, August 11, 2009

afterthoughts

Today was the first day of school...it was also an absolute waste of time because besides the videos, there was nothing which i cannot read for myself in the lecture handout. I don't blame her la...she's quite nice..hahahaha....housekeeping to me is like boring stuff.

In any case, going back to NUS is more of looking for eye-candies for me la...HAHAHA...seen quite a few. In any way, i met up with some old friends and aquaintances and in the midst of lecture, i heard about some stories here and there.

This is targeted at no one in particular. I just want to voice it out here for the benefit of everyone, however painful it may be or how offensive it may be to some people, but for our sakes and the sakes of future friends, blogging this will make me think more about my r/s and learn from here.

How often when we go on in life, we forget our friends who were once there for us back in secondary sch or JC? We move on the diverse paths and all but forget the important our friends as we pay more attention to the friends that are with us everyday.

I think it's important to at least sms or call up your friends in msn to catch up. Because while you may think that you're leaving them behind, it's even more likely that they are moving on without you. At the end of the day, those that you have affected by your 'ignore-ance" have chose to live a happier life without you.

Don't live in a bubble thinking that life is in the here and now. You are not the person you are without those who have helped you in the past. Of course, I am not telling us to keep smsing our friends or bug them to go out. What i'm saying is that, when you have some exhibition or movie to go to, ask yourself, who would have gone with you? Who would have enjoyed those exhibits as much as you do? Who did you promise to go with?

I feel that these things play an important part in our lives. Besides being busy with our projects and revision, don't forget to keep in touch once you're free.

Those friends you've had have helped you through a period in your life. They would have consoled or encouraged you in school while you were down. It could be that they helped you buy a nugget while you're going hungry while mugging in school. Perhaps, sometimes we have to exercise about of self-discipline to try and reach out to them as well.

It may seem like a futile thing to do. While the fear of rejection looms especially when you are no longer "close". However, oftentimes i had experienced that they do not reject a movie outing, nor a trip to a park - in fact it may give a change of pace to routine.

So next time, before you decide to go anywhere for a bite, think - who might have wanted to come along as well.

I think friendships take effort. That "effort" would be a labour of love, if you had the heart to do so in the first place. Come on! How long does an SMS take?

It's hurting to know that you've been forgotten and know that "busy" is an over-used as an excuse. Although you may never realise what you've lost or how you've hurt others by doing nothing to reach out to them, it doesn't mean that it's not a responsibility. My sympathies goes out to forgotten friends, and lost memories....

And if i've ever lost contact or made you feel neglected - u are always welcomed to call me and scold me senseless and THEN i'll treat you to starbucks =D

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