Pardon me vonk, but i need to vent this out  - makes me feel better. I understand that some people take time to overcome this period of shock, then reluctance and the willingness to cling on to any home and finally be at peace with what is going on. I'm more or less more stable because i'm here everday and so i know my mum's condition the best. 

What irks me is that my mum's bodily functions are not voluntary, which means that all her blinks, heavy breathing, head movement are not controlled by her brain. It's a spinal reflex...frankly i was quite shocked at first to know...but now i'm accepting it.i believe my mum can hear us but in her own way....she may not show it, but i know...=)

My uncle takes every movement and blink like a response from my mum. It's not correct to sell that idea and i think it's dangerous for them. If....anything happens to my mum, they would be sorely disappointed and start to blame the doctors, the nurses the whole world for my mum's "sudden" deteoriation. It's uneasy to see people with my uncle that react to my mum's every twitch. It's not correct....but if that gives them hope, sometimes, i don't want to spoil their hopes and later be blamed for being too "cold" and "heartless".

Yes...so i'm avoiding my uncle and whenever he's there talking to my mum, i put on my earphones and play Sims (since i have like 6 expansion packs now!). I kindly remind my relatives that her motions are reflexes...some can take the news fast, some cannot. But mostly, they need some time. Right now, my grandma, aunts, dad and me know what's going on and to my opinion, having the right attitude towards my mum. 

In a note of care, i'm worried about my uncle's emotional health. Seriously... just talked to my aunt and told her that i don't know how to tell my uncle the stuff we know. Haiz...i guess have to let my aunts handle him bah. usually is my mum talk to my uncle one...see? my mum's the UN man....(xinyi, she's your predecessor)